Ebenezer Scrooge is not the one particular person to obtain a go to from ghosts of Christmas previous in the course of the festive interval. Seems one in 10 of us are haunted by former flames over the vacations — a relationship development that is been dubbed “Marleying.”
Named after Jacob Marley, the ghost of Scrooge’s former enterprise accomplice in Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol, Marleying is mainly when an ex will get again in contact over Christmas after an extended interval with out contact.
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Researchers at relationship web site eharmony coined the time period after they surveyed greater than 4,000 British adults to seek out out whether or not they’d skilled the development. The analysis revealed that 11 % of singles have been Marleyed, whereas 8 % admit they’ve contacted an ex themselves. Christmas Eve is the date we’re most probably to obtain a textual content from an ex, in line with the findings.
Curiously, London and Wales had been discovered to be the UK’s prime places for Marleying.
Step away from the telephone.
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So, why do ghosts from long-deceased relationships select to reappear over Christmas? The researchers say that individuals returning to their hometowns over the vacation interval is a significant driver behind the development because it affords the chance, and proximity, to make reconnecting with outdated flames potential.
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Loneliness is another excuse behind the development. Current analysis carried out by eharmony and relationship counselling charity Relate discovered that 10 % of singles dread the Christmas interval, with many feeling “upset and pressured” at the moment of yr.
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“Simply since you are at dwelling visiting your outdated haunts, doesn’t essentially imply it is best to really feel compelled to hang-out a former accomplice,” says Rachael Lloyd from eharmony. “Although some persons are completely happy to reconnect with an ex over Christmas, it’s essential to make sure you are each on the identical web page to keep away from confusion or harm.”
Within the phrases of Kylo Ren, let the previous die. Kill it if you must.
This text was first revealed in 2017 and republished in 2023.
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